Recently, a few gal pals of mine and I had the joy of spending some quality girl-time noshing on tacos and consuming an adult beverage…or two. The topic came up as to what type of personality characteristics and attributes did we find most desirable in men. Is it brut or Braun? Book Smarts or Street Smarts? Hopeless romantics or just Romantically hopeless to even talk about it? Lol
We talked about many attributes a man might have that are desirable. Y’all get your minds out of the gutter. Not everything revolves around that myth. We cussed and discussed the bad men and how they would never make the list.
Not all of our lists were the same because we are all very different people and have very different love languages. A few qualities we all did agree on. Probably the same things you might agree on- but the order might vary. Whatever it is you find a Deal Breaker- here is a list of the Deal Makers.
Nadine’s list:
1- This should come as absolutely no surprise to anyone- A Jesus Follower- A man who puts God first – willing to attend church WITH me- not just lip service. Absolutely no 14-year-old avoidants allowed- He can’t SAY he wants to go with me to church and then look for a million excuses not to go. Or worse- keep me from going.
2- Intimacy – very important- which is why it’s listed as number two. Is he in complete and total agreement and understands what I need from him? – x 365 – Loyal & Trustworthy- Safe!
3- Financially stable- Is he willing/capable to work or is he retired? – financially fit – mainly the point is he is NOT dependent on me to support him.
4- While were at it- He is NOT dependent on substances- alcohol, cigarettes, weed, prescription drugs, dip, vape, food…whatever.
5- Health promotion- Is he fit? Does he work out? Does he enjoy various activities – walking, biking, hiking, motorcycles- Is willing to go to the doctor or hospital if he is sick? Does he eat well? He doesn’t over eat- He doesn’t over drink.
6- Can he and will he travel by trains/planes and automobiles as well as he is not afraid to cruise? And is he willing to take at least one vacation a year if not two?
7- Is he Educated- reads something daily. Can he carry on an intelligent conversation – especially with my friends and my family?
8- Does he have a sense of humor and likes to laugh? Even at himself? He is not a mean practical joker.
9- Will he handle his own dysfunctional exes and children? And it is understood- He Never will expect me to deal with his ex drama mama.
10- Is he Loyal and does he love me as much or more than I love him? Does he love to spoil me as much as I love to spoil him?
Whew! And there you have it! The best top ten list in the trailer park and perhaps the world. Of course the perfect man does not exist- just the perfect one for you and me. I wish you luck as you pursue a relationship with the perfect mate for you.
Listingly yours,
Nadine Bodine
Your Very BEST friend in the whole wide world 🌎